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6 Goals for Weight Loss Success


Is weight loss important to you? If so, now is a GREAT time to get started! If you have desire to lose weight, doing so now is a natural step to take!

But let’s say that you have tried before with this goal and either not succeeded, or succeeded beautifully, but then gained weight back again. For many with weight-loss goals, it has seemed to be a venture of frustration and disappointment. Has this been your experience?

If so, it is time for a new outlook — a new approach. Here are 6 practical, effective steps for weight loss success:

1 – Be Positive:
Pay attention to your thoughts. Notice the types of messages that you are giving to yourself about you being a success — both as a person and in regard to weight loss. Notice specifically if you are being negative about this: Think — self-fulfilling prophecy. Respond to any negativity by re-wording the thought into a positive, success-generating affirmation: “I am a powerful, productive person!” “I enjoy success attaining my goals!” “I persevere with my resolution and lose the weight that I desire!”

2 – Be Realistic:
If your goal is to lose 50#, start with the awareness that you do not lose 50# all at once. In essence, you lose 1#, 50 times. So, start with that first pound. Give yourself realistic sub-goals. For example, you might choose the goal of 1# per week. Look where you will be by the end of this year!

3 – Know Yourself:
Are you someone who does better exercising with others? Then, by all means, do NOT assign yourself exercise by yourself on treadmill at home. Yes, it might be cheaper (if you already have the treadmill — you know, the one with all the clothes hanging from it in the family room?). Go to the gym — be around others — have a social outlet and exercise. Better yet, get an exercise buddy and meet each other at a specified time!

4 – Incorporate What You Know about Yourself:
If you feel pressured by others bringing up your efforts at weight loss, don’t announce your intentions to lose weight to the office. Keep it to yourself … and let them notice — and comment — on the results.

5 – Reward Your Success:
Be generous and kind to you. Choose non-food rewards and recognize you for your courage and your perseverance. Others may have NO idea what you have been going through … but YOU know! You are the person in the position to look out for you … to be kind to you … to recognize you as a success!

6 – Persevere:
Losing weight is a huge, important step toward better health. Being successful losing weight takes courage, motivation, diligence and persistence. Make your affirming cry: I Can Do It!

I urge you to use these six weight-loss ideas over and over to create success with your resolve to lose weight.  And I encourage you to learn more about creating effective weight loss success with our Weight Loss Hypnosis-Workbook Program.  To learn more, click here!

Complex Decision Making Steps



Decision making is the study of identifying and choosing alternatives based on your values/preferences as the decision maker. Making a decision implies that there are alternative choices to be considered – including that which best fits your goals, desires, lifestyle and values.

Doing SOMETHING – and, then, moving yourself to perform that action – can propel you in the direction of a desired goal. When you are faced with a complex decision, it is important to be aware of using an approach which fits the complexity of the decision.

Examples of complex decisions include: How would I best organize my investments to finance a land purchase? Should you take a vacation – for how long and to where? To solve these complex decisions, use these 7 Steps to SUCCESS with Complex Decision:

Step #1: List each optional decision; include the Pros and Cons for each.

Step #2: Carefully examine the list: Analyze it – what does it suggest? – Is the decision obvious? If so, select the obvious.

Step #3: Which list – the Pros or the Cons – is stronger. Why?

Step #4: Proceed to act on the stronger list.

Step #5: How do you feel? Are you content with this selection?

Step #6: If so, proceed with the stronger. If not, reconsider which list is stronger.

Step #7: Proceed to act on the stronger list.

Decisions are not made in isolation from each other – you gather information, explore alternatives and make a resultant choice … in a context of other decisions. Every decision you make affects the decision stream – i.e., decisions are made in a context of other decisions.

There is a stream of decisions surrounding a given decision. Many decisions that were made earlier have led up to the current decision; they have made it possible – they have added limitations to it. In addition, many other decisions will follow from this decision creating far-reaching consequences.

I invite you to use these steps over and over to assist you when in the process of making complex decisions.

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Make Your Dreams Come True!



How do you make your Dreams come true? What plan have you found that works for you?

If there is something that you would like to see happen in your life — something that you dream about experiencing — there IS a way to make it occur! The easiest, most successful path to achieve it is by carefully setting goals.

Having goals is similar to having a map to a destination … with directions carefully printed out to guide your way! A “mapquest” to your desired outcome. It allows you to know where you are going and what you need to do to get there successfully.

Rather than giving yourself vague promises about getting what you want, knowing what your goals are gives you a clear picture of the outcome. This clear picture, in turn, provides you with the confidence to go after what you want. As a result, you achieve more and become more!

Goal Setting — Both an Art and a Science:

a) An art: Utilizing your abilities to be both innovative and creative, goals allow you to use your own ways — ways to fit specifically for you — to create the pathway to achieve the very outcomes you desire. After all, it is your life you are going to change. They are your dreams waiting to happen. Goal Setting reinforces your unique abilities to accomplish those outcomes about which you have been dreaming.

b) A science: In the process of accomplishing your desired outcomes, goal setting requires that you use a method and approach that is practical and achievable. In other words, setting a goal is more than just telling yourself, ‘I want to run a marathon’ or ‘I want to learn the guitar’ or ‘I want to put up my own business’. To accomplish goals effectively, you also utilize certain steps that lead to the goals being accomplished.

For example, instead of just saying, ‘I want to run a marathon’, the science of goal setting demands more. It also requires that you add, ‘I will train for six months beginning next week using this specific training protocol; I will change my diet in these specific ways; and then, next spring, I will enter and complete my first marathon.’

I invite you use these ideas over and over to set into motion the goals that will make Your Dreams come true!  And I invite you explore our website to learn more about how to use Powerful Affirmations to successfully achieve your goals.

Affirmations for Success



Affirmations are positive statements with a goal-oriented focus. They are statements that you repeat so often that the ideas are able to penetrate your subconscious mind.

The following 5 tips are designed to help you to formulate your affirmations and goals most beneficially. Doing so allows you to increase the probability of activating them quickly in your life:

TIP #1 — State the Idea Positively:

Your subconscious mind will create whatever you are thinking. Fashioning your thought positively allows the creative power of your subconscious mind to have a direct line-of-sight to your desired outcome. So, if you want is to be more self-confident, you might word your affirmation as, “I am confident and self-assured in my words and actions!”

TIP #2 — Word the Statement in Terms of Yourself:

Rather than referring to yourself in
the second person, “you”, which keeps the idea more impersonal, you would use the first person, singular, to word your suggestions — “I” or “my” or “me” — thus, personalizing your affirmative statement.

TIP #3 — State in Short, Simple Phrases:

Your subconscious mind can more easily create
simple directives. Hence, by wording your affirmations as simple statements, you are helping your subconscious mind to more-easily affect its creation.

TIP #4 — Use the Present Tense:

Wording your statement in the here and now creates an
immediacy in your command to your subconscious mind. Hence, by using the present tense, you support your subconscious mind in initiating its creation at the soonest possible time.

TIP #5 — Focus on the Outcome You Wish to Create:

When you concentrate on the goal you desire to have in your life, you give your subconscious mind clear direction of your desired outcome. When you focus on what you want to overcome, you indirectly suggest that outcome as being what you want to have in your life. This is counterproductive. For example, if you want to feel safe and secure, you might affirm, “I am secure and safe being alive in the world!” rather than affirming, “I am not fearful and anxious!” While the latter may have an a positive intent, even though it says “not”, it actually suggests to your subconscious mind that it make you “fearful and anxious”.

As a counter example of this, have you ever spent any time not thinking about elephants? Go ahead — take 15″ and focus on not thinking of elephants. … What happened?

Do you see how, even though I suggested that you NOT think about elephants, I actually — by the very mention of “elephants” — brought the idea of elephants to your mind? That’s the power of suggestion. If you suggest NOT thinking about something to yourself, you, too, will actually be introducing the idea that you should think about that very thing! I encourage you to experiment to clarify this concept for yourself.

I invite you to use these tips over and over to create and use affirmations to direct your subconscious mind to create goal success!  And I encourage you to learn more about how to use Affirmations to create successful effects in your life.  You can access our Automatic Affirmation System, a practical way to use affirmations frequently and effectively in your everyday life.

The Power of Your Mind



Your mind is INCREDIBLY powerful! It creates for you 24-7, 365 days a year. It creates EXACTLY what you are commanding it to create.

Why? you might ask. The answer, quite simply, is that this is its nature. To put this a different way — that is the way it is programmed. That is one of its main functions in you life.

To make this easier to understand, let’s look at the way your mind operates …

TWO ELEMENTS OF MIND:

Your mind has two parts — your conscious mind and your subconscious mind. Each has very specific roles that it performs for you.

CONSCIOUS MIND:

Your conscious mind is the part of your mind that you are aware with most of the time. It is logical, judgmental, analytical and critical. Usually, it is your conscious mind that gets over-involved in wanting to control everything. For some people, this can arise from a lack of confidence. This lack of confidence can be about things working out well, about the orderliness of the Universe, and/or about one’s own VERY CREATIVE abilities to cope with what occurs … and to bring it to a successful completion.

SUBCONSCIOUS MIND:

Your subconscious mind is very different from your conscious mind. Your subconscious mind has memory of events that have occurred in your life. It operates as a very-obedient servant — in other words, it creates that which it is commanded to create.

PROGRAMMING THE SUBCONSCIOUS:

So, how do you usually give commands to your subconscious mind? You do this through your thoughts. What you think becomes a command to your subconscious mind. Remember that it is your servant? It does not argue with you. It simply proceeds to create that which you have told it about a situation.

This principle is the basis of “self-fulfilling prophecy”. In other words, you create that which you have told yourself in a given situation. This is the principle of how you attract — and manifest — in your life!

I invite you to begin to notice the directions that your thoughts are creating. Since you can direct your thoughts positively, it follows that you can affect the resultant experiences, too. In this way, you allow yourself to attract success!  And now I invite you to learn more about how to use Affirmations to create successful effects in your life by browsing our website and exploring our many products.

Positive vs. Negative Messages


Now, let’s look at what this means … and why it matters so much to the success of your goals and affirmations

POSITIVE MESSAGES TO THE SUBCONSCIOUS:

If you have told yourself (and your subconscious mind, which is just sitting there, listening in) something POSITIVE, you are directing it to create in that fashion. Thus programmed, your subconscious mind can create a VERY GOOD, self-confident, self-esteeming event. Thus directly, your subconscious mind — by its very nature and function — proceeds to create a positive outcome in your life! This event can, in turn, begin to help you build your sense of positive self-esteem.

NEGATIVE MESSAGES TO THE SUBCONSCIOUS:

On the other hand, if you have told yourself some NEGATIVE thought — something you don’t even WANT to experience … guess what? You are correct: Your subconscious mind, thus programmed, proceeds to activate the negative thought, too.

And WHY is this? It occurs specifically because your subconscious mind does what it was told! It doesn’t care about the outcome — it’s just following your commands, which you delivered via your thoughts. This is its nature — it’s the way it functions!

What a “pickle”, isn’t it? It sure is … because, in this latter example, not only are you focusing on what you DON’T want, it FEELS BAD. And YOU feel bad as a result!

So, what else could you do?

OTHER OPTIONS:

You could become VERY vigilant to your thoughts. You could start to pay very close and particular attention to what you are thinking — with the knowledge that, left unchanged, your subconscious mind will be creating those thoughts!

WHY IT MATTERS:

There is a specific reason that I want you to understand the creative POWER of your subconscious mind. That reason is to assist you to better understand why you absolutely DO NOT want to spend valuable time and mental energy in negative thinking … and why you DO want to spend valuable time and mental energy in positive thinking! There is no limit to the positive outcomes you can create when you give positive thoughts to your subconscious mind!

I invite you to use these principles over and over to direct your mind to attract your own personal success.  And now I urge you to learn more about how to use Affirmations to create successful effects in your life.  Just explore our website — as you do, you will find many more practical ideas for using Affirmations in your life!

How to Change Negative Thoughts


Here are some of the characteristics of your Subconscious Mind:

a) your subconscious mind functions by its very nature to create what it is told, and

b) your subconscious mind does not care what it creates — it just creates what you have commanded through your thoughts.

This being the case, do you want to waste energy on it creating in directions counterproductive to your goals? Of course you DON’T! So, you might be asking, “What can I do?” …

AWARENESS OF THOUGHTS:

You can begin to be aware of the thoughts in your mind. Now, that might sound weird to you! You might be saying to yourself, “Hey, they’re my thoughts. I KNOW what I am thinking!” Do you?

HABITUAL NEGATIVE THOUGHTS:

If you are like most people, many of your thoughts pop into your mind, unbidden. Many of your thoughts are reflections of things that others have said to you about you. Many of your thoughts are based on past — possibly no-longer-relevant — habit! The problem with this is that those unbidden habits might be directing your subconscious mind in OTHER directions than you want in your life!

Here’s how to find out …

RECORD KEEPING:

Begin to notice your thoughts. As you become more and more aware of what you are thinking, start to record the negative thoughts — especially those that you notice coming to mind with some frequency … and even-more ESPECIALLY those that deplete your self-esteem and self-worth or increase your feelings of inferiority and depression.

That’s right — you don’t have to judge them: Just begin to notice and write them down. Recording habitual negative thoughts becomes the basis to understand what YOU HAVE BEEN telling your subconscious mind to create. This is IMPORTANT!

It is important because it helps you to appreciate HOW INCREDIBLY WELL your subconscious mind has already been bringing things into being … just the way you said they were to be!

TAKE CONTROL, ACHIEVE MORE!

Once you can appreciate the amazing creative power of your subconscious mind in this way, it is a much easier task to start directing that creation … in ways that serve your goals. Then, you are in the enviable position of enjoying MORE of what you’ve always wanted your life to be! Only you can limit the incredible positive outcomes you can create when you give positive thoughts to your subconscious mind!

I invite you to use these steps over and over to practice directing your subconscious mind to attract success.  And now I encourage you to learn more about how to use Affirmations to create successful effects in your life.  I invite you to browse our website and explore all of the products and services that we offer!

Manifest Positive Thought


Here are the Steps to take to Get Benefit from those Negative Thoughts:

Now, let’s look at what you can do with the thoughts you have recorded. Let’s allow these negative habitual thoughts to benefit you! Let’s allow them to serve as guides for you into the paths for having MORE of what you want in your life.

WHAT TO DO:

1. Select the first of the negative habit thoughts that you have recorded.

2. Reword it into a positive idea.

3. Holding in mind that your subconscious mind has incredible power to create what you are thinking/saying to yourself, state that positive idea firmly, with conviction!

4. Continue to repeat this statement until it begins to “feel” more true about you.

This positive statement is called an affirmation. When you use affirmations to direct your subconscious mind to create these positive ideas ABOUT YOU … you allow positives outcomes to begin manifesting in your life.

NOW FOR AN EXAMPLE …

Let’s say that you noticed that you had been telling yourself, “I will never succeed. Other people can do it — but I mess up whatever I try.”

Can you see what you had been directing yourself to create with this idea? Can you see its results in your life? OF COURSE, you can!

OK, let’s re-word the thought. Let’s take the idea contained in the thought and use it in a positive way. This might become, “I am persistent and diligent and succeed at that which I undertake. I don’t stop until I do! I am a success!!”

REPETITION … REPETITION … REPETITION:

Now you repeat and repeat and repeat this idea … with the understanding that your subconscious mind — by its very nature — creates what you are thinking/saying. You continue to do so until you begin to feel a “fit” with these ideas.

MORE REPETITION:

Now it is your turn … Take another of the habitual negative thoughts that you have recorded. Now, re-word this thought into a positive idea. Then proceed to the repetition step with this second thought. Only you can limit the incredible positive outcomes you create when you give positive thoughts to your subconscious mind!

I invite you to continue following these steps over and over in this fashion until you’ve completed your list. As you do, continue to notice your feelings, your experience, and your successful affirmations.

And now I invite you to learn more about how to use Affirmations to create successful effects in your life.

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