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Retirement Coaching

There is an exciting, new way to look at your senior years! At the core of this outlook is the concept of you continuing to lead a meaningful life. For many years, I’ve had people come to me wanting to know their life’s purpose. These people were seeking to understand why they were alive. They desired to better comprehend the meaning of their lives — why they were here, how they could leave the world a better place, etc.

Each of these folks were in their 60′s. To a person, they expressed that they were looking at the waning years of their lives. Each was concerned about having his/her life matter, to have it mean something.

In the past, the idea was common that one’s senior years — those years after one left behind their first professional career — was a time of “retirement”. The concept Read the rest of this entry »

Thoughts of Age Can Affect How You Age

ScienceDaily (Mar. 4, 2010) — According to research from Purdue University, the saying “You’re only as old as you feel” seems to resonate especially with older adults. According to the study’s lead investigator, “How old you are matters, but beyond that it’s your interpretation that has far-reaching implications for the process of aging.”

Doctoral student in sociology and gerontology, Markus H. Schafer continues to explain, “If you feel old beyond your own chronological years, you are probably going to experience a lot of the downsides that we associate with aging. But if you are older and maintain a sense of being younger, then that gives you an edge in maintaining a lot of the abilities you prize.”

Schafer and co-author Tetyana P. Shippee, a Purdue graduate who is a research associate at Purdue’s Center on Aging and the Life Course, compared people’s chronological age and their subjective age to determine which one has a greater influence on cognitive abilities during older adulthood. Nearly 500 people ages 55-74 were surveyed about aging in 1995 and in 2005 as part of the National Survey of Midlife Development in the United States.

In 1995, when people were asked what age do you feel most of the time, the majority identified with being 12 years younger than they actually were. The researchers found that those who felt young for their age also experienced greater confidence about their cognitive abilities a decade after.

“We are not sure about what comes first,” Schafer explained. “Does a person’s wellness and happiness affect their cognitive abilities or does a person’s cognitive ability contribute to their sense of wellness.” This will be addressed in future research.

Schafer points out both positive and negative implications of this study’s findings. “There is a tremendous emphasis on being youthful in our society and that can have a negative effect for people,” Schafer said. “People want to feel younger, and so when they do inevitably age they can lose a lot of confidence in their cognitive abilities.”

“But on the other hand, because there is such a desire in America to stay young, there may be benefits of trying to maintain a sense of youthfulness by keeping up with new trends and activities that feel invigorating. Learning new technologies is one way people can continue to improve their cognitive abilities. It will be interesting to see how, or if, these cultural norms shift as the Baby Boomer generation ages.”

“There is a slight difference between men and women, but it’s not as pronounced as we expected,” Schafer said. “This was surprising because of the emphasis on physical attractiveness and youth that is often disproportionately placed on women.”

These findings were published in January’s Journal of Gerontology: Social Sciences, and the study was funded by the National Institutes of Health.

8 Keys to Effective Stress Management


The following are Eight Keys to Manage Stress in your life.  Using these keys in your life will unlock your inner doors to more peace, relaxation, and longevity for you–

1.  LEARN TO RELAX:   While this may sound almost too simple for  belief, go ahead and give it careful practice.  Relaxation benefits not only your physical condition, but your mental and emotional states as well.  Experiment to discover the ways of relaxation that work best for you.

2.  BREATHE DEEPLY & RHYTHMICALLY:  Breathing … now how tough is that?  You may find it surprising that many people do not breathe in a relaxing, stress-reducing way.  Stress-reduction breathing is deep and regular, with the inhale and exhale approximately the same length.  Often people breathe shallowly, or unevenly, or they hold their breath.  If you start to pay attention to others’ breathing patterns, you can easily see this.  If you start to pay attention to YOUR OWN breathing patterns, you can easily become aware of this, too.  Breath draws in vital oxygen, which is required by each cell to stay strong and healthy.  It strengthens your physical, mental and emotion energy.  It allows you to “let go” of tension and pressure.  Your breathing is a physiological function that is with you each and every moment … and breathing deeply, in an unstressed fashion, costs you nothing — it is free!

3.  FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE:  When a situation occurs, concentrate on all of the positive interpretations Read the rest of this entry »

5 Steps to Abundance


Abundance … does it seem like it’s far, far away? Have you become panicked at all of the Gloom and Doom on the news wires lately? Do you want to keep your attitude positive … and yet find yourself slipping into negative thinking? … and not know how to extricate yourself?

What can you do …

… to focus your life in directions that serve you?

… to surround yourself with confidence and a sense of safety?

… to move your own experience to one of kindness and manifestation?

You can start NOW and take control of your own experience! You can stop listening to predictions of perdition and begin to create your own prosperity. And you can do so Right Now!

You already have the mechanism for doing this. It rests in the capability and creative power of your subconscious mind. The power of the subconscious mind creates what you are thinking. This is called “self-fulfilling prophecy”. Every moment of every day, your subconscious mind creates according to the thoughts you hold in mind.

If you believe that everything is doomed, it is. Not because — objectively — it has to be … but, once you’ve verbalized to yourself with intention, “Everything is doomed”, it has to be because you believe it so! AND you get to be right .. every time! That is the nature of your subconscious-mind creation.

Conversely, if you believe that there is abundance in the Universe … and if you believe that you share in this abundance, you do. Not because it has to be … but it has to be because you believe it so! AND you get to be right … every time! That IS the nature of our subconscious-mind creation.

Here’s what to do … Follow these 5 Steps to Abundance:

STEP #1: Experiment over and over with your thoughts.

STEP #2: Challenge your subconscious mind to create the MOST positive ideas you can imagine!

STEP #3: Let your imagination run wild!

STEP #4: Put those ideas into thought and command your subconscious mind to bring them into your life … starting this very minute!

STEP #5: Keep watch — notice the bounty that comes your way!

I invite you to use these steps over and over to create prosperity and abundance in your life.

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Life Coaching to Change Your Life



Hold on tight to your dream … When you see the shadows falling … When you hear that cold wind calling … Hold on tight to your dream.

These lyrics from the hit by E.L.O. (the Electric Light Orchestra) aptly summarize a basic – winning – strategy of life coaching. If you desire to experience happiness in your life – if you want to feel truly ALIVE each and every day – Life-Coaching can help you create your own personal, unique life map. A life map is a set of directions for how to reach a specific destination in your life.

The easiest way to create your life map is to seek the guidance of a Life Coach. The Life Coach helps you to set up specific steps to change and will support you in undertaking those steps.

Specifically, your Life Coach can help you get your quest underway by:
Step #1. Identifying your dream – i.e., that about which you are passionate. Your passion – your heart’s desire – is what Joseph Campbell referred to as the concept “follow your bliss”
Step #2. Setting up objectives toward creating your dream;
Step #3. Prioritizing these objectives;
Step #4. Getting started on what you selected as Priority #1.

In addition, your Life Coach will diligently guide you through the “shadows falling” and the “cold wind calling” – those tough times when you can be tempted to back away from your goals. It is specifically at these challenging times that it is MOST important to continue to persevere.

I encourage you to use the assistance of your Life Coach to repeat these steps over and over to attain your dream – to live your life passionately. You – as each of us – have been given this present moment in time. Using it to its fullness honors the depth of the gift … and serves to enhance your personal sphere in powerful ways.

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Simple Decision Making Steps



Decision-making is a powerful approach to eliminate procrastination and wheel-spinning. Making an informed decision to do SOMETHING – and, then, moving yourself to perform that action – can set into motion the successful accomplishment of a desired goal.

For the most effective outcome to your decisions, it is important to create an approach for simple decisions. When doing so, also be aware that the approach you use to make simple decisions can differ from your approach to complex decisions.

Examples of simple decisions include: Should I go to a movie or work overtime today? Would it be wiser for me to purchase a $10 item that will last 3 times longer, or to choose a $5.99-version? When you are faced by a simple decision, you can use these 6 steps to create a successful outcome:

Step #1: Use a brief time to decide what to do. By not taking too much time, you streamline the decision and don’t get bogged down with non-essentials.
Step #2: Briefly write out your options. Taking the time to briefly make notes helps you to focus on the decision.
Step #3: Ask yourself what you want to do. This puts you – and your emotions – into the decision-making process.
Step #4: If you do not care, what option(s) do you NOT want to choose? Eliminate this (these).
Step #5: If you do not care, is there someone who does care? Ask him/her.
Step #6: If #1 – #4 have not lead you to the decision to choose, select option #3.

I urge you to use these steps over and over to move yourself along in the process of decision making.

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Complex Decision Making Steps



Decision making is the study of identifying and choosing alternatives based on your values/preferences as the decision maker. Making a decision implies that there are alternative choices to be considered – including that which best fits your goals, desires, lifestyle and values.

Doing SOMETHING – and, then, moving yourself to perform that action – can propel you in the direction of a desired goal. When you are faced with a complex decision, it is important to be aware of using an approach which fits the complexity of the decision.

Examples of complex decisions include: How would I best organize my investments to finance a land purchase? Should you take a vacation – for how long and to where? To solve these complex decisions, use these 7 Steps to SUCCESS with Complex Decision:

Step #1: List each optional decision; include the Pros and Cons for each.

Step #2: Carefully examine the list: Analyze it – what does it suggest? – Is the decision obvious? If so, select the obvious.

Step #3: Which list – the Pros or the Cons – is stronger. Why?

Step #4: Proceed to act on the stronger list.

Step #5: How do you feel? Are you content with this selection?

Step #6: If so, proceed with the stronger. If not, reconsider which list is stronger.

Step #7: Proceed to act on the stronger list.

Decisions are not made in isolation from each other – you gather information, explore alternatives and make a resultant choice … in a context of other decisions. Every decision you make affects the decision stream – i.e., decisions are made in a context of other decisions.

There is a stream of decisions surrounding a given decision. Many decisions that were made earlier have led up to the current decision; they have made it possible – they have added limitations to it. In addition, many other decisions will follow from this decision creating far-reaching consequences.

I invite you to use these steps over and over to assist you when in the process of making complex decisions.

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Make Your Dreams Come True!



How do you make your Dreams come true? What plan have you found that works for you?

If there is something that you would like to see happen in your life — something that you dream about experiencing — there IS a way to make it occur! The easiest, most successful path to achieve it is by carefully setting goals.

Having goals is similar to having a map to a destination … with directions carefully printed out to guide your way! A “mapquest” to your desired outcome. It allows you to know where you are going and what you need to do to get there successfully.

Rather than giving yourself vague promises about getting what you want, knowing what your goals are gives you a clear picture of the outcome. This clear picture, in turn, provides you with the confidence to go after what you want. As a result, you achieve more and become more!

Goal Setting — Both an Art and a Science:

a) An art: Utilizing your abilities to be both innovative and creative, goals allow you to use your own ways — ways to fit specifically for you — to create the pathway to achieve the very outcomes you desire. After all, it is your life you are going to change. They are your dreams waiting to happen. Goal Setting reinforces your unique abilities to accomplish those outcomes about which you have been dreaming.

b) A science: In the process of accomplishing your desired outcomes, goal setting requires that you use a method and approach that is practical and achievable. In other words, setting a goal is more than just telling yourself, ‘I want to run a marathon’ or ‘I want to learn the guitar’ or ‘I want to put up my own business’. To accomplish goals effectively, you also utilize certain steps that lead to the goals being accomplished.

For example, instead of just saying, ‘I want to run a marathon’, the science of goal setting demands more. It also requires that you add, ‘I will train for six months beginning next week using this specific training protocol; I will change my diet in these specific ways; and then, next spring, I will enter and complete my first marathon.’

I invite you use these ideas over and over to set into motion the goals that will make Your Dreams come true!  And I invite you explore our website to learn more about how to use Powerful Affirmations to successfully achieve your goals.

Affirmations for Success



Affirmations are positive statements with a goal-oriented focus. They are statements that you repeat so often that the ideas are able to penetrate your subconscious mind.

The following 5 tips are designed to help you to formulate your affirmations and goals most beneficially. Doing so allows you to increase the probability of activating them quickly in your life:

TIP #1 — State the Idea Positively:

Your subconscious mind will create whatever you are thinking. Fashioning your thought positively allows the creative power of your subconscious mind to have a direct line-of-sight to your desired outcome. So, if you want is to be more self-confident, you might word your affirmation as, “I am confident and self-assured in my words and actions!”

TIP #2 — Word the Statement in Terms of Yourself:

Rather than referring to yourself in
the second person, “you”, which keeps the idea more impersonal, you would use the first person, singular, to word your suggestions — “I” or “my” or “me” — thus, personalizing your affirmative statement.

TIP #3 — State in Short, Simple Phrases:

Your subconscious mind can more easily create
simple directives. Hence, by wording your affirmations as simple statements, you are helping your subconscious mind to more-easily affect its creation.

TIP #4 — Use the Present Tense:

Wording your statement in the here and now creates an
immediacy in your command to your subconscious mind. Hence, by using the present tense, you support your subconscious mind in initiating its creation at the soonest possible time.

TIP #5 — Focus on the Outcome You Wish to Create:

When you concentrate on the goal you desire to have in your life, you give your subconscious mind clear direction of your desired outcome. When you focus on what you want to overcome, you indirectly suggest that outcome as being what you want to have in your life. This is counterproductive. For example, if you want to feel safe and secure, you might affirm, “I am secure and safe being alive in the world!” rather than affirming, “I am not fearful and anxious!” While the latter may have an a positive intent, even though it says “not”, it actually suggests to your subconscious mind that it make you “fearful and anxious”.

As a counter example of this, have you ever spent any time not thinking about elephants? Go ahead — take 15″ and focus on not thinking of elephants. … What happened?

Do you see how, even though I suggested that you NOT think about elephants, I actually — by the very mention of “elephants” — brought the idea of elephants to your mind? That’s the power of suggestion. If you suggest NOT thinking about something to yourself, you, too, will actually be introducing the idea that you should think about that very thing! I encourage you to experiment to clarify this concept for yourself.

I invite you to use these tips over and over to create and use affirmations to direct your subconscious mind to create goal success!  And I encourage you to learn more about how to use Affirmations to create successful effects in your life.  You can access our Automatic Affirmation System, a practical way to use affirmations frequently and effectively in your everyday life.

The Power of Your Mind



Your mind is INCREDIBLY powerful! It creates for you 24-7, 365 days a year. It creates EXACTLY what you are commanding it to create.

Why? you might ask. The answer, quite simply, is that this is its nature. To put this a different way — that is the way it is programmed. That is one of its main functions in you life.

To make this easier to understand, let’s look at the way your mind operates …

TWO ELEMENTS OF MIND:

Your mind has two parts — your conscious mind and your subconscious mind. Each has very specific roles that it performs for you.

CONSCIOUS MIND:

Your conscious mind is the part of your mind that you are aware with most of the time. It is logical, judgmental, analytical and critical. Usually, it is your conscious mind that gets over-involved in wanting to control everything. For some people, this can arise from a lack of confidence. This lack of confidence can be about things working out well, about the orderliness of the Universe, and/or about one’s own VERY CREATIVE abilities to cope with what occurs … and to bring it to a successful completion.

SUBCONSCIOUS MIND:

Your subconscious mind is very different from your conscious mind. Your subconscious mind has memory of events that have occurred in your life. It operates as a very-obedient servant — in other words, it creates that which it is commanded to create.

PROGRAMMING THE SUBCONSCIOUS:

So, how do you usually give commands to your subconscious mind? You do this through your thoughts. What you think becomes a command to your subconscious mind. Remember that it is your servant? It does not argue with you. It simply proceeds to create that which you have told it about a situation.

This principle is the basis of “self-fulfilling prophecy”. In other words, you create that which you have told yourself in a given situation. This is the principle of how you attract — and manifest — in your life!

I invite you to begin to notice the directions that your thoughts are creating. Since you can direct your thoughts positively, it follows that you can affect the resultant experiences, too. In this way, you allow yourself to attract success!  And now I invite you to learn more about how to use Affirmations to create successful effects in your life by browsing our website and exploring our many products.

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